So today my oldest daughter turns 18. She is hard working, fiercely loyal, independent and my mini me, at least in how she looks and laughs. To be her mom has been so wonderful and it's hard to believe that she will be moving on to her next season of life so soon.

When I think back now to that cold December day 18 years ago, I realize I had so little knowledge of what life as a mom would be like. I expected sleepless nights and scraped knees, boy drama and dress up days.

What I didn't know was how much being a mom would change me. The amount of sacrifice required to love and care for kids seems endless. The wisdom needed to navigate schools, technology, and teenage girls doesn't just come to you. I have leaned on so many other women in my community (it takes a Tribe!) over the years to help me learn how to be the best mom for my kids that I could be.

For those of you with kids still at home, I thought I'd share a few things I've learned over the years in hopes that it blesses your home and family.

1. Every child's needs are different. My oldest needs thoughtfulness, my middle needs encouragement, and my youngest needs time.
2. Connecting with your child's heart is your most important job. They don't need your service or your talents nearly as much as your understanding of who they truly are.
3. Placing your child at the center of your family is actually a long-term disservice. Kids need a world and story to live into. Give them a big purpose and world to serve.
4. Acknowledging weaknesses and failures is actually a strength. You teach them that it's okay to not be okay and to depend on others for help.
5. Taking care of yourself is also taking care of them. Eat right. Go on vacation. Find a good counselor. They are depending on you and watching you to see who they want to become.

I pray the final weeks of the year are meaningful with your family and community. If you want to take some time to take a deeper look at your health and relationships, I've created an easy assessment tool for you to use. Feel free to use it or share it with whomever you like. I'm cheering you on and believe that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.

- Brooke 💙