Helping everyday women find an authentic fitness home. Mid-40s Mom of 3 using her creative gifts to encourage and activate women to prioritize their daily food & exercise.
Twenty-Two Lessons from 22 Years of Marriage
Finley and I celebrated our 22nd anniversary on Friday. In typical May fashion, we were at a ball field watching our son play soccer.
This weekend, He and I sat down together and put together some marriage lessons we've learned, realized, discovered, sorta-kinda-figured-out to share with you today.
I hope it could produce a good spark for you in your home 👩🏻❤️👨🏻
Twenty-Two Lessons Learned
- It's ok to be a mediocre cook and be an above-average kitchen cleaner.
- Take enough different kinds of vacations to discover what your favorite is together.
- Building a business with your spouse can be really fun but it is never easy.
- It's surprisingly easy to lose your identity as "husband and wife" to "mom and dad."
- You get out of it what you put in, so don't be stingy.
- Don't neglect open and honest conversations about money.
- When you send texts to opposite-sex friends, make sure to include your spouse in the text group.
- Speak well of your spouse in private among personal friends.
- Speak well of your spouse in public among strangers too.
- Bodies change over time but make an effort to take care of yourself so that your spouse finds you attractive.
- Disappointment can lead to distance which creates a painful disconnect.
- Don't compound the moment when someone is Hungry, Angry, Lost, or Tired.
- If either your career or kids are prioritized over your marriage you'll lose them both.
- Recognizing your conflict cycle is the first step toward addressing it when it arrives the next time.
- Intimacy only gets better over time, but the baby years are complicated.
- Finding a couple that is always 10 years ahead of you in marriage is a proven cheat code.
- You are not your parent's marriage, so write your own story.
- Determine if you are the Pursuer or Withdrawer in your conflict cycle and seek to understand the position of the other.
- Apologize when you're wrong and actually say the words out loud, "I'm sorry, will you forgive me?"
- If bodies need attention and care to grow and stay healthy, why should your marriage be any different?
- Laughing together is a great indicator of your current connectedness.
- Marriage is a daily choice, so choosing to give instead of take means you are adding to the life of your marriage.
For the Tribe - B 💙
PS. If you have a friend that is in their first 10 years of marriage, this might be a nice forward for them to read 🥰
PPS. Did you know that BTRIBALFIT members can refer a friend and when they signup, you get a month for free? 🤝
I believe in you!You are worth the time. - Brooke 💙 |
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Helping everyday women find an authentic fitness home. Mid-40s Mom of 3 using her creative gifts to encourage and activate women to prioritize their daily food & exercise.
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